Honesty

Honesty is one of the most powerful traits a person can have. If you are honest to yourself and others you can be sure that no matter what happens, you are doing the right thing.

When I talk about Honesty I don’t simply mean telling the truth to people when they ask a question or you tell a story about what happened at the supermarket without exaggeration. That’s the basic level of honesty I’d like to think everyone has (unfortunately not the case).

It’s the honesty that you can look at yourself and say yes, I was wrong to do this or that or yes, I do feel like this or that. Instead of lying to yourself to make yourself feel better, even if only temporarily. An example would be, admitting you are actually just jealous of someone and getting along with them regardless, rather than telling yourself how much of a bad person they are or simply hating them.

When we experience emotions, we sometimes hide them away behind a story, lying to ourself about how we really feel. We actually tell ourselves that lie until we belive it.

My biggest issue with honesty is that I struggle to be honest to myself but finding myself being to honest to others. So I would lie to myself about how I feel and how things really effect me but then tell someone else how I feel about them and how they effect me emotionally.

I open up to people to easily and lay my heart down I’m front of them so they can do what they want with it. It becomes very socially awkward sometimes but hey! At least I’m honest and they know where I stand right?

No good going around life never expressing your gratitude and appreciation to others, even if it does go deeper than the standard friendship should be.

Also honesty is the basics for self improvement, you can’t fix something that’s broken if you don’t admit it’s broken in the first place! I am referring to things like laziness, unhealthy or having a bad habit you know isn’t good for you. They say to identify addiction the first symptom to look for is denial, basically lying to yourself that there is a problem in the first place.

The mind takes on a self of its own, and it plays a massive part in lying to you. It’s trying to socially protect itself, it doesn’t want to be caught out, it doesn’t want to be embarrassed which is why the first instinct to lie is so common and also socially accepted.

This may be why sometimes my honesty can be socially awkward I’m not sure. But why hide the truth? You know deep down the truth, the truth is always there in the background eating at you when you do lie so why do it in the first place?

With honesty comes loyalty, genuineness and respect for yourself and others. It opens doors to achieving your dreams and helps you communicate and show your emotions openly. It keeps you true to yourself and opens up new ways to explore what the simple things in life offers, it helps you find your truest form, your soul or self before the mind starts to label….